What is a Safer City for Women?

Mumbai has been the safer city for women according to my discussions with my female friends. The arguments in favour of the statement ranges from 'one can party till late', 'one can come home from office in odd hours', 'one can wear short skirts without being leered and cheered at', to 'one doesn't care about what the other girl is up to'.

I was reading a blogpost today by an extremely popular blogger (by the count of comments she receives on her posts) on the same topic that led me to think of defining a 'safer place for women'.

Mumbai surely figures as one the safest city in my list too because of the financial independence it gives to women. Women love the city because, for a change, she is not the object of discussion for whatever she does.

Similarly the North-East is safe for women because of the social status it gives to women. The hill states particularly are known for their matrilineal societies and women play a very significant role, that creates safety for women in general. Assam has had the privilege of a great Guru - Srimanta Sankardeva, who preached a class-less society and had given a modern outlook to the society by reducing the influence of Brahmins and their traditions. Many of the Brahmin traditions like Widow Marriage, Sati Pratha are not to be seen in Assam.

However, both these places have de-merits. If Mumbai gives loneliness and depression, the NE states are economically poor to give options towards financial independence.

Safest city or a place for woman is not to be judged by the time of night, she can come home. It is to be judged by the freedom and support that place gives her. That place has to be her immediate family - her home. Home is the place that can make her take efforts to:

• understand herself, and how different or similar she is to her society.
• crystalize her ambitions, likes and dislikes in order to lead her adult life
• form her concepts of feminity, society and financial independence

It is the home that brings up a woman to understand and realise her own safety zones. She might not feel safe in her own house, or on the other extreme, she might not want to be outside home till late hours irrespective of whether she feels safe outside or not.

She might enjoy being a house-wife and feel safe at a city where joint family and society plays an intrinsic role (inter-ferring at times), unlike Mumbai where we don't even know our neighbours.

There is no safer city for women, as compared to the any other city. It is completely upon the woman on what she considers safe.

Blogger or Wordpress cannot bring all the women to one platform to search for opinions, but for sure, Mumbai or any other place for that matter, would not win the majority votes.

Dedication, My friends, thats the key

Its a debate about brilliance and dedication. And you know what, dedication is what that will take you to your dreams.

Dedication is not one word. It is a combination of many words. It is the sum of discipline, focus, passion, hard-work, planning and punctuality.

Brilliance would give you the brain cells to understand concepts, remember facts and interpret conclusions. It would also give you curiosity and distraction.

Getting distracted is the key to failure.

There, you need dedication. And all the words that come with dedication. Brilliance cant be exclusive of dedication.

Dedication is however independent of brilliance. Read any of the autobiographies of successful brilliance.

Focus, plan and dedicate your life to your dreams, and your passion. You will get to your life of contentment.

Oi Moti! Good Morning... Parents beware!

It was a revelation when I saw how care-free kids are when it comes to giving nick-names. It was when I had gone to drop my kid to the school bus, did I realise the plight of obese kids.

Calling someone Moti or Mot'e comes without much thought for kids. I wonder how that affects the confidence of the kids who are obese. It is worrisome that we see so many obese kids these days without enough sports, and with access to junk food.

It is a call to all those parents who are feeding their kids with no abandon. Parents may be sending their kids into a depressive shell, in the guise of giving love and providing for the kids. Parents need to realise the mental and physical trauma that the kids would go through, once they develop a habit of eating too much.

Introducing the consciousness of sports and fitness early in one's life not only help the kid stay healthy, but also teaches him/her team spirit and how to manage oneself (self-sufficient) in a group of people.

Parents beware! We eat to live. We dont live to eat.